Advice for single guys from a single female

Firstly - don't pump her for information, whether it be in e-mails, in the chat room or at a meeting.

A single female has to consider her own safety and may have good reasons for not wanting to discuss whereabouts exactly she lives, what she does for a living etc. the fact that she has agreed to meet you and has turned up and is being friendly and is considering sleeping with you should be enough - if she says she doesn't want to discuss certain things, don't make her feel bad about this, respect it.

Secondly - don't judge. Nobody can understand someone's situation exactly and it is not for them to make assumptions. I am always honest with people beforehand about my situation. Nobody needs to be made to answer questions they do not wish too, this is not helpful or respectful, and why should another party feel able to sit in moral judgment.

Thirdly - a bit of appreciation for the lady is helpful. I am not expecting grovelling and declarations of undying love, but I feel it is reasonable to expect a few compliments and a bit of friendly banter if a man is expecting to have sex with you, to put you at your ease. I have generally have had positive experiences of this but it seems to be the guys with no experience of meeting people this way who act arrogant and as if you are some slag they are doing a favour. On the contrary, it is the women who are doing the guys a favour - there are far less of us on the market than you after all!

If a woman ends up staying the night then an offer of a towel, a shower, cup of coffee and general pleasantries go a long way to making her feel she has not just made a huge mistake.

Fourthly - don't assume!, just because she may talk to you in the chat room does not automatically mean that she wants to meet you. All to often I get asked when I want to meet up when I've only been in conversation with somebody for a few minutes.

And lastly - If a profile asks for replies with a photo, do the sensible thing and attach one! There is possibly nothing more annoying than having to sift through loads of replies from people that have not attached a photo when specifically asked in the profile to do so!

thanks

Chloé xxx